Here are a couple interesting links related to this subject.
The first one is a good list of signs that a girl may be in a violent relationship, the second one is for "The Yellow Dress", an educational program about a girl that was murdered by her highschool boyfriend. I saw this play when my oldest daughter was in middle school and it was very moving and brought back alot of bad memories for me. I think it should be shown in every middle school in this country.
ttp://abcnews.go.com/2020/teen-dating-violence-warning-signs/story?id=7783273
http://www.deanaseducationaltheater.org/yellowdress.html
Saturday, February 20, 2010
It's not love!
Dating violence is a very scary issue! Most teens that end up in a violent relationship have no idea that they are even in one. The relationship starts out "normal", the boy is sweet and kind, shows signs of affection and makes an effort to befriend her family and friends. He is charming and makes everyone believe that he has the girls best interests in mind. Sometimes, he may not win over her friends and family but still manages to fool them long enough to make the girl fall in love with him. Then ever so slowly things change. So slowly that the girl doesn't realize it's changing, or even worse, she thinks maybe she did something to cause the change in her boyfriend or in the relationship. He starts to say negative things to her and begins talking her into spending less time with her friends and more time with him or waiting for his call. He starts to show signs of jealousy and accuses her of flirting or cheating on him. He makes her feel ugly or fat or stupid. Anything to make her think that he is the only one she can get. This helps him to control her because she is afraid that she will be alone if he leaves her.
Once he has her under his control, he may start to show signs of violence. If she does something he doesn't like, he shows signs of anger and may start to push or hit her. After hurting her, he makes it seem like she was the cause of it.
I am certainly not an expert on this subject, but I do have personal experience with it. I was in a relationship when I was a teen that ended up being very controlling and towards the end of the relationship, there were a few violent incidents. I got out before it was too violent, but it took everything I had to get out. I have recently seen a few young girls in relationships that I think could end up being controlling, emotionally damaging to them, or even violent. I want to help them and any other young ladies or even older ladies that may be in a similar situation.
Please join me in spreading the word about this serious issue to anyone you know that has younger girls in their life or someone they think could be in this situation.
Thank you, Holly
Once he has her under his control, he may start to show signs of violence. If she does something he doesn't like, he shows signs of anger and may start to push or hit her. After hurting her, he makes it seem like she was the cause of it.
I am certainly not an expert on this subject, but I do have personal experience with it. I was in a relationship when I was a teen that ended up being very controlling and towards the end of the relationship, there were a few violent incidents. I got out before it was too violent, but it took everything I had to get out. I have recently seen a few young girls in relationships that I think could end up being controlling, emotionally damaging to them, or even violent. I want to help them and any other young ladies or even older ladies that may be in a similar situation.
Please join me in spreading the word about this serious issue to anyone you know that has younger girls in their life or someone they think could be in this situation.
Thank you, Holly
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